There are certain things many people do that secretly kill their s*x drives. These are some of those things.
Having a different s ex drive than your
partner can be a tough obstacle to overcome. Of course, there is no
magic number of times you should be having s*x, but if you feel like
you're just not enjoying s*x like you used to or don't want to have s*x
as often than you used to, you might be suffering from a low s*x drive.
While you won't know for sure what the
culprit is until you talk with a doctor, these common reasons for low
libido may point you in the right direction.
1. You're really tired.
Being too tired to have s ex is an old
cliche, but it turns out there may be more to it than we once thought. A
study by the National Sleep Foundation found that one in four married
Americans say they are often too tired at the end of the day to have s
ex with their partner.
A study in The Journal of S exual Medicine also found that lack of sleep can have a negative effect on your s ex drive.
So if you want to get busy between the sheets, you've gotta get busy with your pillow.
2. You're stressed out.
If you're really feeling the pressure at
work or you're beefing with a friend, your cortisol levels are probably
high as a result of stress.
That cortisol is a total mood killer and
may be suppressing testosterone and other hormone productions, making
the thought of getting it on less appealing to you.
3. Your hormones are out of whack.
If you were born with naturally-low
testosterone, whether you identify as male or female, you may have
always had a low s*x drive. Your doctor can test you to see if your
hormones are imbalanced.
While the pill has not been proven to
affect s ex drive, it can affect your hormones, and many people who have
taken it report a sudden shift in how much they want to have s*x.
In all of these cases, you can talk to your doctor to see if another form of contraception might be right for you.
4. You're depressed.
When your mental health is not in order,
you may not want to do much of anything, let alone have s ex. If you've
been experiencing symptoms of depression or any other mental illness,
this can be taking a toll on your desire to have s ex, Dr. Constantine
George told INSIDER.
Additionally, if you are currently on
anti-depressants, that can also affect your s ex drive. But that doesn't
mean you should stop treating your symptoms to get your libido back:
You can talk to your doctor if you're concerned the medicine is the
culprit and try to find a prescription that's better for you.
5. Your thyroid is off-balance.
If you have a thyroid disease or
abnormal thyroid levels, that can take a major toll on your s ex drive,
according to several studies. Hypothyroidism can affect your metabolism,
which in turn slows down your s*xual hormone production.
It's important to have your thyroid
levels tested when you go to the doctor, especially if you were assigned
female at birth, to see if this might be the culprit.
6. You're not hitting the gym (or the yoga mat or the trail).
Getting the blood pumping in your
workouts can help you get the blood pumping in the bedroom. A lack of
exercise can greatly decrease your desire to have s ex, Dr. William
Kolbe, author of “The Rejuvenating Power of M asturbation,” told INSIDER because it can affect your hormones.
“Being physically inactive, putting
on extra weight, mental stress can all cause changes in our hormone
production, especially the s ex hormones testosterone and estrogen,” he said. “Testosterone
has many functions, among them is maintaining s exual desire, our
libido. When our s ex hormone production is diminished or out of
balance, then generally it becomes more difficult to find the initiative
for s ex.”
7. You're not eating well.
We all love a good piece (or three) of
pizza, but if you're not giving yourself a balanced diet, your s ex
drive may be suffering a big blow.
Fried and salty foods can make you
bloated, and if you've ever eaten a plate of french fries, you'll know
that s ex is often the last thing you want.
Studies have also shown that a balanced
diet can increase your s ex drive along with certain foods, so if you
need a little boost, put down the corn dog and pick up the watermelon
(who knew?).
8. You're not feeling yourself.
If you're not feeling good about
yourself, you're probably not going to want to have s ex with someone
else. Your self-image might actually be plaguing your chances at a happy
s*x life.
“People harboring attitudes of low self-esteem, low self-worth, or lacking in self-love can easily lose interest in s ex,” Kolbe said. “The
mind is our foremost erogenous zone and if it is mired in negative or
limiting self appraisals, feelings of not being worthy, then
consequently people will regrettably choose to forgo activities such as s
ex that are stimulating and satisfying.”
If you feel yourself thinking negative
thoughts about yourself and your body, talk to your partner about how
you can make yourself more comfortable during s ex. Find a way to make
yourself feel s exy again and, if need be, talk to a therapist about how
to regain confidence.
9. You're dehydrated.
Chances are you've been bombarded with
reasons to drink more water during the day, but here's one more: not
getting enough H2O could be destroying your urge to get it on.
Lack of hydration causes headaches, and
no one wants to have s ex with a throbbing head. On top of that, lack of
hydration can cause v aginal dryness which can make s*x uncomfortable.
If you're just not feeling it, try sipping on an extra glass of water throughout the day and see if it does the trick.
10. You've started new medication.
If you've started a new medication, it can have an unintentional chilling effect on your libido.
In addition to anti-depressants and oral
contraception, as mentioned previously, Beta blockers and ACE
inhibitors can also be culprits, according to Dr. George, among many
others.
If you're suspicious that your pills are
to blame, take a peek at the side effects and talk with your doctor
about what you can do about it.
11. You haven't been getting anything out of s*x.
If you're not getting your needs met by
your partner, there's really not going to be much motivation for you to
want to have s ex at all.
Think about what you'd like your partner
to do that would make you more excited at the prospect of s ex and ask
them if they'd be comfortable doing it. Your partner should be open to
finding some way to make s ex good for you too, so talk it out.
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